I know, this is a paradoxical post, as I've been blogging for four-and-a-half years now. But except for when my mother died, I've never posted anything private here. No one, reading this blog, would know whether or whom I've dated in the past four years, whether I've had any major fallings-out with friends, or even -- beyond the most general sense -- what I've been working on.
And you know why? Because it's none of your business. I see this blog as a virtual version of my real apartment. I'm not hanging my laundry out on the deck, and I'm not trumpeting the details of my personal life on this blog.
If you have independent knowledge about my life, you might be able to see the subtext in certain posts. But I don't need sympathy or advice from people who don't know me well, and I don't understand people who do.
This is vague; let's get specific. Someone I know only slightly, in a professional context, is a Facebook friend (another point of ignorance: I don't know why I've agreed to be Facebook friends with people I hardly know). This person has apparently been in a rather turbulent relationship, which I have seen played out in a series of changing relationship status posts -- Facebook announces these things when you change them. "X is now in a relationship." "X is now single." "X is in a relationship, and it's complicated."
I can see needing to know this stuff when you're in high school or college, and I wish we'd had Facebook in college; life would have been so much easier (and possibly more exciting and dramatic) if we could have looked people up after running into them in the cafeteria line. But as adults? Do we really need to know these things about our casual acquaintances? What's the point of advertising them?
Worse than this, I've recently witnessed a situation in which someone found out that all was not well with the relationship through the partner's relationship status line. Person X was "in a relationship;" imagine their surprise to find their partner saying "It's complicated." Of course, no one who was Facebook friends with either was surprised to see, a couple of weeks later, that both were Single -- and at least one of them has now had the wisdom to remove "Relationship Status" from their profile altogether.